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Daily Dial-in Meeting Format

MEETING FORMAT

–> Leader  begins:

Welcome to the today’s meeting of Rageaholics Anonymous.
This is a closed meeting; open to all who identify as
Rageaholics and any newcomers. We ask that all cell phones be
turned off or silenced at this time, except when sharing….
My name is_________________, I am a rageaholic.

Thank you for coming. May we have a moment of silence,
followed by the Serenity Prayer:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things
I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Rageaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who
share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that
they may solve their common problem and help other rageaholics
to recover from acting out in compulsive and destructive anger.
The only requirement for membership is the desire to stop raging.
There are no dues or fees for RA membership; we are self-supporting
through our own contributions. RA is not allied with any sect,
denomination, politics, organization, or institution; does not
wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor
opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay abstinent
from rage and help other rageaholics to achieve abstinence.

Are there any newcomers in attendance?

SKIP THIS INDENTED SECTION IF NO NEWCOMERS

A newcomer  is described as anyone attending
his or her first ever Rageaholics Anonymous meeting.
We have set aside time for newcomers to share at the
end  of the meeting,
If you are a newcomer, we ask you to introduce
yourself at this time by your first name.  This is not to
embarrass you, but so that we may get to know you better.

PAUSE TO LET NEWCOMERS, IF ANY, INTRODUCE THEMSELVES

Is anyone attending this particular meeting for the first time.
If so,  you are welcome to introduce yourself at this time
by your first name.  This is not to embarrass you,
but so that we may get to know you better.

FIRST-COMERS, IF  ANY,  INTRODUCE THEMSELVES


We will now go around the room and introduce ourselves,
stating our first name and our disease.

MEMBERS INTRODUCE THEMSELVES

Would somebody please read THE TWELVE STEPS?

THE TWELVE STEPS
Adapted from the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, page 59,60

1. We admitted we were powerless over rage-that our lives
had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves
could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives
over to the care of God as we understood God.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another,
human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became
willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible,
except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when
we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious
contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge
of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps,
we tried to carry this message to rageaholics, and to practice
these principles in all our affairs.


–> Leader continues:

Thank you for reading.

Would somebody please read OUR COURSE?

OUR COURSE
Adapted from pages 66 and 67 of  “Alcoholics Anonymous”

It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to
futility and unhappiness. To the precise extent that we permit these,
do we squander the hours that might have been worth while.
But with the rageaholic, whose hope is the maintenance and growth
of a spiritual experience, this business of resentment is infinitely grave.
We found that it is spiritually fatal. For when harboring such feelings
we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the Spirit. The insanity of
rage returns and we act out again.

The feelings of anger, upset, annoyance, frustration, etc… are both
normal and unavoidable.  But with us, to act out is to die spiritually.
If we were to live, we had to be free of acting out our anger.
The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the
dubious luxury of normal men and women, but for rageaholics these
things are poison.

We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us
In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real,
had power to actually kill. How could we escape? We saw that these
resentments must be mastered, but how? We could not wish them
away any more than we could wish away our destructive anger.

This was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us were
perhaps spiritually sick. Though we did not like their symptoms and
the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. We
asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience
that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended
we said to ourselves, “This is a sick person. How can I be helpful
to them? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done.”

We avoid retaliation or argument. We wouldn’t treat sick people that
way. If we do, we destroy our chance of being helpful. We cannot be
helpful to all people, but at least God will show us how to take a
kindly and tolerant view of each and every one.

Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely
looked for our own mistakes. Where had we been selfish, dishonest,
self-seeking, and frightened? Though a situation had not been entirely
our fault, we tried to disregard the other person involved entirely.
Where were we to blame? The inventory was ours, not the other persons’s.
When we saw our faults we listed them. We placed them before us in
black and white. We admitted our wrongs honestly and were willing to
set these matters straight.


–> Leader continues:

Thank you for reading.

Would somebody please read the ABSTEINENCE STATEMENT?

ABSTEINENCE STATEMENT in Rageaholics Anonymous

Our primary purpose is to abstain from the behavior of rage, and
to help other rageaholics achieve abstinence.  Abstinence may
differ among RA members depending on how individuals choose
to define their bottom line behaviors. Bottom line behaviors
are characterized by anger that is compulsive and harmful in nature,
and which leads to pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization.
Some rageaholics may engage in behaviors from which other rageaholics
find they must abstain; in RA, we leave the choice up to the individual.
“Progress rather than perfection” is the atmosphere for
growth that we seek to promote.

It is the hope of RA to provide the rageaholic with a new experience
toward dealing with anger that is both non-compulsive and
non-destructive. Such an approach is possible to all
who earnestly desire it.


–> Leader continues:

Thank you for reading.

Who would be willing to be the Timer?

Thank You

In sharing, members may discuss their individual rage behaviors, as
well as the length and nature of their abstinence. In the spirit of
love and respect, this meeting asks that during sharing, members not
engage in cross-talk. Specifically, we refrain from questioning or
commenting while another person is sharing. We also avoid referring
critically or judgmentally to anyone else’s share. We steer clear of
charged or triggering statements as well as acting out our anger
in the group. Instead, we attempt to express the feelings beneath
our rage in an effort to seek awareness, objectivity, and the
willingness to surrender our disease.

We will now have open sharing until 20 minutes beore the end of the hour.
At that time, newcomers may share, if they care to, followed by
burning desires if time allows.
Please keep your sharing to ___ minutes or less. The time
will sound after ___ minutes, leaving one minute to wrap up.

At 20 minutes before end of our hour, sharing will
conclude for Fellowship Announcements.

Who would like to begin?


AFTER GROUP SHARING CONCLUDES:

–> Leader continues:

Thank you all for sharing.

It is now time for Fellowship Announcements.

Any other announcements?

–>            AFTER ANNOUCEMENTS, LEADER RESUMES:

In closing, we would like to say that the opinions expressed here
were those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave
the rest. The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should
be treated as confidential. So remember: Who you see here, when you
leave here, let it stay here.

GROUP: HERE, HERE.

A few words to those of you who have not been with us long, Whatever
your problems, there are those among us who have had them too, or
something similar. If you can keep an open mind, you will come to realize
that there is no situation too difficult to be overcome
and no unhappiness too great to be lessened. Talk to each other.
Reason things out. But let there be no gossip or criticism.
Instead, let the understanding, peace, and love
of the program grow in you one day at a time.

Would someone please read Gaining In GAINING IN HUMILITY?

GAINING IN HUMILITY
Adapted from page 47 of the “Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
of Alcoholics Anonymous”

We thought “conditions” incited our anger, and when we tried
to correct these conditions and found that we couldn’t to
our entire satisfaction, our anger went out of hand and we
became rageaholics. It never occurred to us that we needed to
change ourselves to meet conditions, whatever they were.
But in RA we slowly learned that something had to be done about
our vengeful resentments, self-pity, and unwarranted pride.
We had to see that every time we played the big shot, we turned
people against us. We had to see that when we harbored grudges
and planned revenge for such defeats, we were really beating
ourselves with the club of anger we had intended to use on others.
We learned that if we were seriously disturbed, our FIRST need was to
quiet that disturbance, regardless of who or what we thought caused it.

To see how erratic emotions victimized us often took a long time.
We could perceive them quickly in others, but only slowly in ourselves.
First of all, we had to admit that we had many of these defects, even
though such disclosures were painful and humiliating. Where other
people were concerned, we had to drop the word “blame”
from our speech and thought.

This required great willingness even to begin. But once
over the first two or three high hurdles, the course began to look
easier. For we started to get perspective on ourselves, which is
another way of saying that we were gaining in humility.


–> Leader continues:

Thank you for reading

Would someone please read THE NINTH STEP PROMISES?

THE NINTH STEP PROMISES
From pages 83 and 84 of The Big Book, “Alcoholics Anonymous”

If we are painstaking about this phase of our development,
we will be amazed before we are half way through.

We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.

We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.

We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace of mind.

No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see
how our experience can benefit others.

That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.

We will lose interest in selfish things and gain
interest in our fellows.

Self-seeking will slip away.

Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.

Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.

We will intuitively know how to handle situations which
used to baffle us.

We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us
what we could not do for ourselves.

Are these extravagant promises?

–> Group:         WE THINK NOT

They are being fulfilled among us – sometimes
quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize
if we work for them.


–> Leader continues:

Thank you for reading.

Bill Wilson wrote: “When brimming with gratitude, one’s
heart must surely result in outgoing love, the finest emotion
that we can ever know.”

It is tradition to end this meeting by acknowledging our gratitude.
Someone begin and continuing around the call, all who care to are
invited to share one thing they feel grateful for in their lives today.

AFTER GROUP SHARES:

–> Leader continues:

Keeping in our thoughts the rageaholic who still suffers, in and out
of this call, will all who care to figuratively stand and join hands,
as we recite the We version of the Serenity Prayer?

“God, grant US the serenity to accept the things
WE cannot change, The courage to change the things WE can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”

–> Leader concludes:

Thank You for a great meeting.